I know a girl, well I believe it’s a she, but I could be wrong. Chances are that you know her too. Her name is Worry, yep worry.

Meeting worry at the beginning of my teenage years was a friendship that started seemingly innocent, but one that will be difficult to stop and will continue into my adult years.

My teenage years were filled with a lot of uncertainties, as expected of someone learning about life, so it was no surprise I formed a friendship with worry. I felt her “what if” questions were positive considerations, concerning the situations I faced.

What if the school you applied to doesn’t work out?

What if you don’t get the grades you need?”

What if you get sick before that final exam?

What if that boy doesn’t like you back?”

These questions were so logical that I didn’t see any issues with them. Well, till it was too late.

I finally realized that with every what-if question she asked, I panicked and imagined only worst-case scenarios. Your reasonable response will be to say why not stop listening to her? right? I know I should have, but I couldn’t stop.

This innocent friendship I began with her, changed to one I had no control over. She knew so much of my thoughts, that her words played subconsciously in my mind.

When I do try to block her out, her what-if questions still echoed in my mind like a cracked CD, even mimicking my own voice.

What would you do if this does not work out?

Anticipate unexpected results.

You aren’t going to succeed in this.

How can I worry less

With time, I became aware that she has this toxic arrangement with others as well, almost with a similar beginning, during the uncertain periods in their lives.

I understand now that she is not a friend, but a bully that refuses to let go. With time she invites a sneaky friend, depression, and together they wreak havoc in different ways.

Like an unsolicited cinema, they mentally fill your mind with visuals of negative outcomes, while offering high blood pressure drugs, hard drugs and alcohol as snacks to escape the effects caused.

I’ve tried everything and nothing helps. I’m at the end of my rope. Is there no one who can do anything for me? Isn’t that the real question?

Romans 7:24 MSG

Alas, yet there is hope, found in one simple book you and I can hold on to daily for freedom from her grasp.

Don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes.

Matthew 6:34 MSG

So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right

Isaiah 41:10 NIV

Oh, what a wonderful hope this is.

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  1. I love the way you phrased this. You conveyed how exactly it feels to be overcome by anxiety and fear, and how it’s so hard to shake it off. Like you said, what always helps me is the good book. Here’s one of my favorite verses: “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go”. [Joshua 1:9]

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